A Christmas Gift to Self
By Denise Belgrave, Registered Psychotherapist (Qual)
The holiday season can be a time of festive shopping, social activities, and recreating traditions while spending time with family and friends. This may include even the most difficult ones who challenge us to be the best versions of ourselves. Stressful? Definitely. However, the holiday season can be a very lonely time for many individuals who are experiencing separation, loss, illness, financial constraints, grief, and loss.
During this time, let us be reminded that one of the most important relationships we can have is our relationship with ourself.
There is no one solution that can solve these concerns, but every person has the power to strategize a plan that works for them. A few ideas which came to mind that could assist with easing stresses are:
1) Have realistic expectations: Set healthy boundaries, know your limits and try not to overextend yourself. Attempting to please and meet everyone’s needs while ignoring your own will lead to burnout. At times we extend ourselves with the expectation that the same will be reciprocated to us. When this does not occur, we experience disappointment and feel unappreciated by our friends and family.
2) Stick to your Budget: Many of us get caught up with the “Spirit of Christmas” and gift purchases resulting in overspending. Sticking to your budget is one way of practicing self-control and taking care of yourself, plus there won’t be any surprises when our credit card statements arrive.
3) Connect: Reach out to others who may have lost a loved one or pet, separated, confined to their homes, ill and lonely. A small gesture and act of kindness can make all the difference to brighten another person’s day.
4) Check in with yourself: Monitor your moods. Take some time out. Make yourself a priority. Practice deep breathing. Meditate. Listen to your favorite music.
5) Keep healthy habits: Overindulgence can cause you to experience stress. Be mindful of what you eat and drink. Make sure to get enough rest and sleep. Remember to move – if there is no time for a big workout, go for a walk.
Remember, this is meant to be the most wonderful time of the year!!!
A Quote by Yung Pueblo: They asked her, “What is Happiness?” She answered, “Happiness is not fulfilling every pleasure or getting every outcome you desire. Happiness is being able to enjoy life with a peaceful mind That is not constantly craving for more. It is the inner peace That comes with embracing change”
Need some support this holiday season? Reach out and book a free meet & greet with Denise to learn about how Psychotherapy can help. Call the clinic at 905-845-7668 or click here to book online.